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Thursday, June 26, 2008

How to Find Motivation for the Things You Hate Doing

June 25th, 2008 by Scott Young

dishes.jpgEveryone has things they hate to do, but need to do anyway. Sometimes it is doing basic chores that need to be done. In other cases, it’s the boring part of an otherwise interesting project. People who get things finished (as opposed to people who just get things started) have mastered the ability to push through the things they hate doing, to work on the things they love.

Getting over activities you hate means combating a special type of procrastination. Everyone procrastinates. Even on things that they normally enjoy doing. I occasionally procrastinate with writing, even though it is one of my favorite things to do.

While a few minutes or an hour of procrastination for a neutral task happens occasionally, you can procrastinate for years on the jobs you really hate. If there are things on your to-do list that never make it to the top, you probably know which jobs these are.

Stomaching Unappetizing Work

There are a few strategies you can use to make bad tasting tasks a little more pleasant. The first is simply to focus on it. You might have noticed that you chew a lot more when you don’t like the food in your mouth. This is probably an instinctive reaction to force you to carefully examine what you’re going to eat before you swallow.

You can do the same thing with the work you don’t like. By focusing on boring or awful work, it is easier to overcome your reflex to spit it out and work on something else. I’ve often found that focusing on work intensely can even make me like tasks I once hated. I normally hate cleaning, but if I invest 100% of my attention towards it, the chore becomes a lot more fun.

Normally, the first reaction to unenjoyable tasks is to “get it over with”. Finishing as quickly as possible so you can move on to something better. However, with this attitude, it is a lot easier to never get started at all, and procrastinate forever.

Try taking a reversed approach. The next time you have an activity you hate, commit to focus on it completely. Invest all of your mental energy and concentrate on the activity until there is nothing else in the world. You might be surprised how much easier the task becomes when you do this.

Make it an Art

Sometimes tasks can be unenjoyable simply because there is no quality in doing them. For me, writing an article is more enjoyable than cleaning dishes. While an article has incredible depth, ranging from complete trash to life affirming, dishwashing is a narrower activity. I either clean the dishes or they stay dirty. That on-off approach usually makes a task incredibly boring.

One solution I’ve found is simply to take that on-off task and give it more depth. See your boring activity as a previously unrecognized art form you can master. When you give an activity more depth, the interest level goes way up. More importantly, it becomes easier to focus on the task completely, making it easy to swallow.

Several years ago I did part-time work as a janitor. Although this wasn’t a glorious position, I found I was able to enjoy it by doing this step. Instead of seeing my job as being an on-off task, I gave it more depth. I saw that there were many ways I could increase the quality of what I did. Taking on those little steps made the work far more enjoyable.

Leverage Yourself With Another Goal

Despite your best efforts, the first two steps might not work. In those cases, trying to transform an ugly task into a beautiful activity won’t help. You might be better off just trying to get the work done, instead of wrapping a bow around it.

The first way you can push through the muck is to use your goals as leverage. Reconnect with why you started important projects and how any activity fits into your bigger picture of success. If you can do this, you can bring some of the motivation towards your final goal and use it to finish an ugly task.

This is why it is important to constantly remind yourself of your goals, and why they are important to you. Those reminders are often necessary to push through the tasks that don’t excite you.

Don’t Do the Work at All

The best solution is to simply not do the work you don’t enjoy. This may sound like a fantasy, but there are ways you can get away with avoiding the stuff that doesn’t interest you:

  • Outsource or delegate it to someone else.
  • Eliminate it from your project. (Is it really necessary?)
  • Find a better way to do it. Technology and tricks can often help you shortcut boring steps into ones that are more interesting.

Ultimately, you should try to minimize the amount of work you need to do, but don’t enjoy. Productivity shouldn’t be about pushing through the muck, but enjoying work you love. However, if you can’t get yourself to stop procrastinating on an ugly task, these are a few ways to move through it.


Friday, June 13, 2008

meaning of life

The Meaning Of Life

There are moments in life where you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we dont see the one which has been open for us.

Don't go for looks, they cant Decieve, don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someoen who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream waht want to dream; Go where you want to go; Be what you want to be, because you only have one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.

The happiness of people don't necessarily have the best of everything. They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The Brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go forward in life untill you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.


Saturday, July 14, 2007

A Very Powerful Message:D



Why do people commit suicide?



Why do people cut themselves?



Why do girls become anerexic and belimec?



Why do kids bring guns to school?



Why do kids get depressed...so they start using meds, and abusing them?



Why do girls feel the need to act like sluts to impress guys?



Why cant people show their sexuality freely, without worrying about being judged?

In the Bill Of Rights, it says we have FREEDOM OF SPEECH! So why are we so afraid to speak up for ourselves?



I KNOW WHY!

Cliques


"Gangstas"

"Preps"

"Nerds"

"Goths"

"Emos"

"Scene//Hardcore kids"

"Punks"


^^^AND THATS NOT EVEN HALF OF THEM!


Society in general


We live in a world where if your not skinny, not beautiful, not sexy, not straight...your tortured, abused, and humiliated. We say that we are all equal but, there is still racism, sexism, and people judging others based on there religion, color, size, heritage, ect.

IS THIS AMERICAN?




IS THIS THE NATION WE LIVE IN AND FIGHT WARS TO SUPPORT?



I AM SICK OF IT!

Stereotypes, and everything else.
I want to live in a good place, without suicide, rape, murder, and JUDGEMENT!



IF THIS HAD ANY AFFECT ON YOU REPOST IT!


No, a ghost will not rape your dog.
You wont have relationship problems
No you wont die in 7 days.
BUT you will have the guilt on your shoulders that you didnt try to get the message across.
I want to stop the madness.
If I only reached out to 1 or 2 people thats fine.
At least MY concience is clear...HOW ABOUT YOURS?




Monday, April 09, 2007

Sadness awakens

Looking back things between me and derek and my Job have not been going the greatest and after seeing how badly it was going I tried my damnest to make things better, to not let my personal life interfere with my work life but have u ever tried to control that during work to not let it happen to u? Its fucking hard harder than what ppl think..So for a while it was working I was controling it and I have been making things better between me and derek still wasnt exactly going great but uptill a week or so ago things between me and Derek have been good except for a little mishap with some drama bullshit last week but all is good now..Succeeding at making things good between me and derek with my other part of my life my work life things got hecktic and now due to excessive lateness and my not supposedly doing my job and pretty much getting lextured shit, when the other fucking employees could of checked if there was outdated shit that needed to be thrown out and a bunch of other BULLSHIT I get FIRED cause I forget to throw out the outdated tornados and some other stupid shit when the others could of checked and did the same damn thing but whatever Speedway can kiss my ass cause all they are, are a bunch of high maintanence pieces of shit that like to hire and fire excessively....So I guess in the end I couldnt control my personal life with my work life...Why does all the bad things happen to me what the fuck did i do to piss of Karma what the hell I dont deserve this, why does this shit have to happen to me..Life seriously can be big bitch.

 

So Im going to try and apply for uneployment and hopefully they accept me and I get money here soon well in a month...

So I dont sink low on money that will happen, I am going to take this week off and relax and re cooperate and figure out what kinda job I want and next monday Im going to go put in applications at the main ones that I really would like to work at and then put in apps for the ones that I could nad would have to handle...So for the next few months im taking a break from work in a way

 

There is a advantage to not having a job though..Now  I can rest and get some of the stress of off me and I can relax and see my boyfriend a little bit more well depending i guess cause he works too..

But there is a Disadvantage as well...I have to cut back a litte bit on seeing my friends and on the weekends when I hang out with derek I cant buy ne pop or food and no more buying cds and movies and just all the other stuff that I on some what of a daily basis buy..

This thankfully wont be for that long hopefully no more than 3-4months but I got this situation under control and im acutally happy that I do and im happy for a whole hell of alot of other things...so I guess im ok for now till something else goes wrong.

My easter weekend went well Spent the night at dereks and on sunday went to eat with his mom then went over to my grandmas and got some gifts then went back to dereks place and chilled and watched some movies..I had a lot of fun it was just relaxing and there was no arguments which was good on my part well and his too lol saturday derek had his band gig I was going to go but the weather was sucking badly and I wanted to spend time with my brother that came back from Washighton D.C for the weekend cause hes in the airforce and he was leaving today so I wouldnt of been able to spend time with him if I hadent on Saturday and gone to Dereks band gig It still worked out great though cause when they got back derek text me and told me to come over at 11:30pm at night but its all good cause we planned that..I was very happy this whole weekend...Guess thats that.

wrote some kind of poem possibly if it is then its not that great but ya here it is.

 

         I AM

 

I am not a loser like I think I am

I am strong, like I know I am

I am weak and scared but can ne one see that

I am not a low life girlfriend to him

I am loved unconditionally by him

I am not alone, He's right next to me and in my heart

I am sad with the eyes of a suicide girl

I am happy for I know he wont leave me

I love but I hurt,

I smile but I frown

Life goes up and it comes burning down

and when it rains it fucking rains hard

but somehow u become stronger from it

I will live, love, be happy and be strong in the hardest of times

I will sink no lower but rise and show the world I am SOMEONE

someone  THE WORLD WILL NEVER FORGET..One day I will and that one day will be soon.

 

<3Storm<3


Thursday, March 15, 2007

Life in the past week or so to right now

It has been really good......

went to see some old friends back in Grandville where I lived at one point in my life...brought back some old memories..it was great...possibly going to hang with them again tomorrow and possibly drink a bit with them..

I went to see my grandma cause I havent in a while...that was good cause I missed her like crazy...Saw my aunt as well cause she was there..My other aunt I saw too..so it was all good..

Been hanging out with friends and working like mad..my hours have changed a bit for now for how long I dont know..but I like it kinda just cause im getting 40hours instead of 32 or less so im good with that..

Some things and people been stressing Derek out for a lil over a month now which is why he is constantly sick...but things are going to be gettnig better here in the next month or so cause we got it figured out on what he is going to do..

So with me and him things seem to be going quite well, never been better...and right now im pretty damn happy probably cause Derek came and kept me company at work last night cause I was working from 4-12am and I was sorta scared to be alone..He makes me soo happy u have no idea, he makes me realize that things well some things are just not worth fighting or argueing over and im just calm and happy all be cause of him...God I love him to death...

I now realize everything that he does or has done for me..and now that I think about it he has done more for me than ne one of my other boyfriends..isnt that amazing?? ahhahah my ex's were losers or they just didnt care as much as Derek does for me oh well..Derek is everything to me, if it was for him I'd probably be well not as great as I am now like I would still be extremely negative and I can see that I have been more happier and perky I guess u could say lately and its great so ya u see if it wasnt for him id still be the way I was before..

*sighs* oh lets see here this saturday im going to the Lamb Of God concert at teh Orbit Room with Derek my Darling boyfriend and a bunch of our friends and plus its mine and derek's 4month anniversary so its going to be alot of fun I know it...

Sunday gotta work from 4pm-11:30pm not looking forward to it at all..and the rmonday I got off and do I know what im going to do hell no...

Think thats it for now..cya guys...

<3Storm<3



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